How to use fitness as a form of self-care

People are often amazed when I tell them I use fitness as a form of self-care. Being in the gym does something to my mental; it calms me down and helps me focus on the present.

I can remember around this time last year I wasn’t worried as much of caring to practice self-care. To be honest that was the last thing on my mind. I often had to remind myself that caring for three children that I have to hold myself more accountable.

Some people have a misconception about people with lean body types. Most people assume that I don’t need to workout because of my lean body type. I have my reasons and not being in shape is one of them.

I want to share three reasons why I use fitness as a form of self-care.

Three Reasons on how I use fitness as a form of self-care

First Reason

  • To stay stress-free

Second Reason

  • Being a single mother it’s one of those activities I can enjoy by myself at the expense of a monthly membership

Third Reason

  • It never gets boring

Let’s Dig Deeper

First Reason

  • With the demands of mothering three little humans all by myself stress is something that I know can slip up on me. To be honest, I don’t necessarily know what it feels like to be stressed. In my opinion, if I am worrying then I am stressing. Anytime, I am feeling other than myself I know that I have to step back from whatever I’m doing to regroup. My advice is knowing your body, your way of thinking can help prevent stress before it comes. Being in the gym the only thing I focus on are my exercises and the music I’m listening to at that moment.

Second Reason

  • Being a single mother and having to budget monthly can sometimes put a damper on anything outside of the necessities for your family. For me, I make myself a priority which means my membership with my local “Planet Fitness” is a MUST. They have the option of a $10 or $20 membership. I chose the $20 membership because anywhere I travel to that has a “Planet Fitness” I can utilize my benefits. It comes out of my bank account monthly. As mothers it must be something you are serious about. Moms until you decide to make your health a priority you will continue to put yourself on the back-burner.

Third Reason

  • Since making a pledge to put myself first I wanted to make sure I had a variation in my exercises so that I don’t get bored easily. Back in January of 2018, when I first started at “Planet Fitness” I participated in the group fitness classes because I knew I wanted to tone & gain muscle but didn’t know what exercises to do to achieve such results. I currently find inspiration for my exercises from the internet (Pinterest & social media) & from the group fitness classes. I’ve found that a variation in my exercises keeps it interesting & exciting.

After reading my reasons on how I use fitness as a form of self-care I hope that you choose to make your health a priority. Most of the time as mothers we run on empty fluids and I wonder how we make it through. I’m guilty of ensuring my children get things before I do most of the time. Most of the time, it’s okay to do such but sometimes simple things like buying a new outfit could be necessities for us but we opt out of it because we feel guilty for doing so.

Self-care comes in so many ways whether tangible or intangible. Just like the kids need new things we do too. Moms I’m here to tell you stop feeling guilty for buying those new shoes, sterling silver necklace or even a new computer that you want. It’s time to start treating yourself just like you do the kids with no hesitation.

We work hard to treat ourselves; every so often. Moms take the pledge with me to treat yourself monthly with an outing, a special gift or even just a $10 or $20 gym membership.

Moms let me know what ways you show yourself love with some self-care. Drop it in the comments below.

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Peer Pressure After Having My Baby

Thoughts post-baby..

“After having my baby I’m going to workout”
“I’m ordering some flat tummy tea soon as I drop this baby”
“My body will never be the same after having this baby”
  
These are some of the thoughts we as women think about before and after having a baby. These thoughts can have an negative affect on the way you view yourself. Sometimes being hard on yourself can put a dampen on your mood and attitude which can lead to stress or even postpartum depression. Postpartum depression is something that is out of one’s control because sometimes feelings takeover the body, but if one is never feeling like themselves they should seek help.
With today’s society, women are too caught up in trying to look like the next woman they see on social media, when in deed, they should work on a routine to create a new habit. Everything on social media is not always true nor always real. For example, if you want a new car you should work hard to get that new car whether you are financing it or paying in cash. The same goes for wanting your body to look better. You should always try to create a routine or habit that will enable you to change things around to better your life. It’s about taking charge of the things you want. So if you want to change your outer appearance than take the necessary steps to make it possible.
As women and mother’s we can get busy but don’t let that dictate a change that you feel is necessary in your life. The same way you plan out your monthly budget you should do the same when it comes to your health. If you need daily motivation make sticky notes visible in places that you frequent around the house to use as a reminder daily. Baby steps could be a start to a life change but only if you think of it as a change for the better. 
After having my third child just about two months ago, I remember packing to leave the hospital and while in the mirror I snapped a quick picture of myself. My initial thought of snapping the picture was to see how big my stomach was after having my baby. I don’t feed into the hype about snapping right back after having a baby but more so about having my own wants and wishes about my body. Yes, I do want my flat tummy back but on my terms. I don’t follow trends I stay in my own lane. I’ve learned since having my third child that I must learn to take time for myself more than usual. I made a vow to start taking it slow but to add fitness into my daily routine.
Below are six habits that I have implemented into my daily routine. I’m sharing them because if you find yourself wanting to get back to yourself after having a baby these small habits can help build that fire back up.

Six Habits:

  1. Walk for about 15-20 minutes daily
  2. Do 25-50 jumping jacks daily
  3. Be sure to drink 8 glasses of water daily
  4. Be sure to eat 3 meals a day (make sure portions of food are not too big to avoid over eating)
  5. 15 minutes of cardio
  6. Take multivitamins

These habits are not in a particular order so do them as you please.

Moms comment below if you find these habits helpful. I am not an expert but I am recommending some habits to try out daily based on personal experience.

 

Mom don’t feel guilty

 My grandmother who was born in the 1940s said us mother’s today have it easy. When you think about all the things we have access to we definitely do. Things pertaining to medical care and necessities for mother and baby. Another thing, my grandmother mentioned is that us mothers in today’s society consume our time with our children instead of balancing out time for self.

I am guilty of this.

I put my children’s needs before mine.

Everything I do I rarely put time in my calendar to do for myself.

Mother’s this must STOP.

How?

So just as easy as we set a reminder about something for our children (ex: doctors appointments, soccer or cheerleading practice) on our calendars instead we must start doing the same thing for ourselves. Don’t feel guilty for setting a reminder for brunch to have some girl talk.

Brunch is one of my favorite things to do here in Atlanta when meeting with friends. We have so many restaurants to choose from but that’s another topic. I love food! As women and mother’s we must understand that we had a life before children and that must continue. Now I’m not saying everyday you should be partying or hanging out but I think 3-4 times out the month is standard for a mother to hang out by herself or with friends.A few things you could do for yourself and not feel guilty :

  1. use the restroom in peace
  2. get the last of the ice cream and watch your favorite television show/movie on the couch with your comfy blanket
  3. take a nap or go to bed with no interruptions
  4. schedule that deep tissue massage that you been wanting to do for months
  5. do some retail therapy and manage not to pick up anything for the children

Moms all of these options are doable. I know for me it’s hard to step outside of my routine. It’s like when I do I feel discombobulated because I am so use to going from a to b to c with no distractions. Sometimes we have to step out of our routine and live a little.


I hope you take some of my recommendations and don’t feel guilty the next time you make time for yourself.

So next time your friends take you up on a night on the town don’t turn them down. Remember exactly what I’m saying in this post. Don’t feel guilty as your children grow older they will learn to understand.

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