Mother of Three & Celibate

**This article is a bit different from what I usually write about but I have been sitting on this for awhile and felt that the time is right.**

Disclosure: In the name of full transparency, please be aware that this blog post contains affiliate links and any purchases made through such links will result in a small commission for me (at no extra cost for you).

Let me rewind and provide a little bit more information. I know your mind is wondering how but brace yourself to find out why?

My oldest daughter is six years old, son is two years old and youngest daughter is soon to be eleven months old.

Well I know your wondering how long have you been celibate? I have been celibate for now almost 21 months.

Let me explain.

I found out I was pregnant on 4/26/2017. At the time I was seven weeks pregnant at the time I found out. I was hurt, confused and surprised.

All weird emotions, right?

Well, at this time I was already over and done with my previous relationship prior to me conceiving baby. I’m a grown woman so of course I took responsibility for my actions and took on my pregnancy like a champ. Baby girl was special in my eyes!!

Why Celibacy?

From the moment, I told the other party that there would no longer be a sexual relationship I realized that my body was more important than a quick satisfaction.

I wanted and deserved better.

I took in a lot of things that most didn’t and don’t know about. The relationship was toxic and I had to stand firm on what was important.

I chose ME and to not suffer in silence anymore.

It took me awhile but I had to forgive myself for staying in a relationship with this particular person for one and a half years but physically trying to co-parent in the same home for another year and a half. It was more so for my children but also because I didn’t want to move back to Ohio.

Selfish on my part, right?

Celibacy until Marriage

I started practicing celibacy without actually making a pledge to myself right away.

After hearing how good, ‘The Wait’ by Devon Franklin/ Meagan Good was I decided to read it and gain more insight into my decision. The book was amazing!

Going through my situation of fleeing an physical & emotional abusive relationship I knew that I had to make some changes within myself first. First thing was to gain back a relationship with God. Second, take care of myself (physically, mentally, financially & spiritually). Third thing was to continue to care for my three children.

Toxic relationships can put a hindrance on a lot of things that we can be blinded by. I didn’t chose to do this because of religious purposes. Looking back at my previous relationships I discovered a pattern of loving & being intimate with men that wanted nothing more. It seems as if marriage was far from their mind and I settled it for it. As women we must know our WORTH.

I made a vow to be celibate.

..committed to this vow because I am powerful and I have no desire to be sexually involved.

I matter.

..deserve to heal broken wounds.

..deserve to put my faith in God and know that marriage will follow when he see the time right.

 

Since reading ‘The Wait’ I have recommended this book to so many women. I would exclusively like to invite women that feel stuck, suffer from low confidence/self-esteem, have been in abusive relationships or just want a change to add this book to their list of books to read.

Once you start reading this book you will not want to put it down. Grab your copy now by clicking the book!!