I am guilty of this.
I put my children’s needs before mine.
Everything I do I rarely put time in my calendar to do for myself.
Mother’s this must STOP.
How?
So just as easy as we set a reminder about something for our children (ex: doctors appointments, soccer or cheerleading practice) on our calendars instead we must start doing the same thing for ourselves. Don’t feel guilty for setting a reminder for brunch to have some girl talk.
Brunch is one of my favorite things to do here in Atlanta when meeting with friends. We have so many restaurants to choose from but that’s another topic. I love food! As women and mother’s we must understand that we had a life before children and that must continue. Now I’m not saying everyday you should be partying or hanging out but I think 3-4 times out the month is standard for a mother to hang out by herself or with friends.A few things you could do for yourself and not feel guilty :
- use the restroom in peace
- get the last of the ice cream and watch your favorite television show/movie on the couch with your comfy blanket
- take a nap or go to bed with no interruptions
- schedule that deep tissue massage that you been wanting to do for months
- do some retail therapy and manage not to pick up anything for the children
Moms all of these options are doable. I know for me it’s hard to step outside of my routine. It’s like when I do I feel discombobulated because I am so use to going from a to b to c with no distractions. Sometimes we have to step out of our routine and live a little.
I hope you take some of my recommendations and don’t feel guilty the next time you make time for yourself.
So next time your friends take you up on a night on the town don’t turn them down. Remember exactly what I’m saying in this post. Don’t feel guilty as your children grow older they will learn to understand.
Yes! Moms need to this more often. Yes we are rewarded on those special days. Some days we want that weekend with the girls or just plan tv and a movie. I call it catching up!! Everyone says you make it look so easy! Its all about the mental and the rest will flow. So hey give yourself a break…we only live once!!
Hello Shawn thanks for your comment. Yes I agree we deserve time to ourselves. I know for me sometimes it’s hard to step away but for my mental it must be done. Enjoy your day.